Husband and I have been together for 6 years, married for 2. When we got married we wanted to wait a bit before starting a family. Just be married, enjoy being husband and wife and do a lot of things you can't do once baby comes. Not saying you CAN'T do what we had planned, it's just more difficult, and different.
We looked at our finances.
We started taking my entire salary and putting it into savings and living on his to see how we would do. What we saved we would use for travel and lump sum payments on anything (Car, Mortgage, Loans etc) We made a "baby fund". I made a budget for how much things would approximately cost for the first year of having a child. I also made a budget for being a working mom outside the home, inside the home or not working at all. I'm thorough and Husband likes data.
We made a "Baby Bucket List"
These were things we wanted to do before we were blessed with a baby.
Most of them were traveling or hanging out with friends. Our biggest thing was France. We wanted to go, not worry about being away for close to 3 weeks. Enjoy drinking as much wine, eating as much cheese and seeing all the sights without towing a kid around. That trip, for me, was our "last hoorah" before settling down.
We went to almost everywhere on our list, except a few that we decided we could do with kids.
We started looking after ourselves.
Husband and I are each 50% of the DNA that makes a child. We both need to be healthy by eating a balanced diet, exercising and taking care of our emotional well-being.
For me, my emotional well-being is the biggest place I have trouble. I am a stress case. I have had mild depression and frequent anxiety attacks that were quite debilitating. It takes a strong person to be selfish and do the right thing for themselves.
We started charting using NFP (Natural Family Planning)
I'll have a special post on this entirely, but a quick summary here. We started using NFP long before wanting to start a family. (Yes, it works!) I was tired of hormones being put into my body and wanted it to function on it's own. This allowed us to see exactly how I was affected by stress, changes, anxiety and led us to be preventative about health rather than waiting for "something to be wrong". It also brought us closer as a couple and allowed us to be more involved in how my body, a future mother, works.
We started training the dogs
I'm not saying they weren't trained before, they were. This is a different kind of training.
We never really thought about how the dogs are with kids until we thought about the "what ifs" of having a child and two dogs.
I have several nieces and my sisters are wonderful to help us with the dogs. They would bring their children and allow us to see how the dogs interacted in a VERY supervised environment and did so frequently in order to get them used to these small creatures that move fast and make high pitched sounds. We have a trainer as well that is giving us life long skills to train them. The great thing about him is he will come back and train us as our life changes.
What things did you think about before trying to conceive?